First of all, I apologize for the tardiness of this entry! The past two weeks have been filled with projects and exams. It's hard to believe you all only have one month left and I just passed the half-way marker for the semester. Nonetheless, time is flying...much faster than I want it to! Much has happened since the last entry, I hope you enjoy!
As you know, I recently picked up a job tutoring a ten-year-old girl named Emily. Her family is extremely welcoming. Her mom is a doctor and her father works for China Patent, an international trademark company that works with foreign firms such as McDonalds. Before my first tutoring session, the family wanted to meet me and get to know me before they entrusted me with their daughter. We chose to meet at Pizza Hut. The Pizza Hut experience in China is much different than in the U.S., it's almost considered fine-dining in China. I went to a Pizza Hut in a wealthy area of Beijing and the decor and atmosphere of the restaurant was lavish. Unfortunately, the prices also matched the level of decor. While eating with the family, I quickly found out how excited they were to interact with an American. It ended up being a contest, and the winner was the one who was able to get the most words out. Usually the dad won, but Emily picked up a few wins here and there as well. I was surprised how open and blunt the dad was about the mistakes of the CCP. He was extremely critical of the schooling system in China. He is an adament supporter of the American education system. I informed him that we have problems of our own, but he still insisted our education system is superior. The family lived in the U.S. for two years, and it seems as though they had a wonderful experience in the States. The dad even told me Americans have some of the best personalities!
One curious thing I have noted throughout my interactions with the family is how Mr. Xiao uses the term "God". Nearly every topic of discussion somehow relates to "God". I am still unclear about what he means exactly by the term. The majority of Chinese people do not believe in any religion. Buddhism, Daoism, and Confucianism still play a role, but not in the religious sense that we assume in Christianity. I saw a much deeper adherence to religious values while I was in Taiwan. This is probably partly due to CCP restrictions on religion. Sometimes I think Mr. Xiao's English translation of "God" carries a different meaning than what he would normally say in Chinese. Nonetheless, I think it is interesting and perplexing. Once I am a little closer with the family, I will feel more comfortable asking.
After the first tutoring session with Emily, Mr. Xiao and Xinna invited me to tag-a-long with their family for a weekend excursion to Tianjin. Tianjin is one of the four municipalities in China. Beijing, Shanghai, and Chongqing are the other three. By the time I leave China, I will have been to all four! They bought my train ticket (on the bullet train!) and offered to take care of me for the day. We left early on a Saturday morning for the Beijing South Station. The Beijing South Train Station is one of the many construction projects that took place in order to prepare for the Olympics. At the Station, we met up with many of Mr. Xiao's colleagues. We hopped on the train and arrived in Tianjin thirty minutes later.
In Tianjin, we met up with a few more of Mr. Xiao's colleagues. Tianjin is known for two things: Baozi and Mahua. In case you were wondering, both are types of food. I'm not entirely sure how to describe them in English, but I will try! Baozi is steamed bread filled with meat or vegetables, and Mahua is basically a type of deep-fried, twisted bread. The most famous restaurants serving authentic, fresh Tianjin Baozi are called Gou Bu Li Baozi (狗不理). Literally, "Dogs won't eat". Upon first hearing the name of the restaurant, I became slightly concerned. But, the family quickly informed me that the name of the restaurant means the Baozi are so good, that the seller does not have time to think about the starving dogs on the street. The Baozi lived up to their name, they were wonderful!
While at lunch, Xinna (Emily's mom) asked me what my plans were for the summer. I informed her that I wanted to stay in Beijing and find an internship as well as work as an English tutor. She immediately offered to help and told Mr. Xiao's colleagues about my plan. The next thing I knew, one of the colleagues told me to send him my resume so he could send it out to various companies in Beijing! I think this clearly illustrates the importance of relationships, or guanxi (关系) in China. Building relationships is one of the main components necessary to achieve goals. Promotions in the government and business world often depend on guanxi. While the U.S. culture promotes mainly on merit, promotion in China emphasizes relationships. So, I ask all of you to cross your fingers!
In Tianjin, many of the buildings feature European architecture. While driving through the streets, it felt as though I was driving through an American city. The pace and atmosphere in Tianjin is much more relaxed than in Beijing. The more time I spend in China, the more I realize Beijing is the exception to the rule. Beijing's culture and atmosphere is unique. Part of the difference lies in the fact that Beijing is the capital, and therefore more emphasis is laid on maintaining cleanliness and improving the living conditions in order to paint a nice portrait for visiting foreignors and the rest of the world. If a foreigner were only to visit Beijing and Shanghai, he/she would think China is extremely modernized. The further away you stray from the major metropolis', the more you realize the rest of China is vastly different.
Later that evening, we returned to Beijing. I decided to meet up with some friends at a small cafe on campus. We were just talking and a Chinese girl tapped my shoulder and asked me if I was American. She then proceeded to ask me if I would be willing to teach her friend English. An hour later, I walked out with a new job! I'm always amazed by the way things work over here. My new tutoree is 28 and works for a company that sells heart monitors to hospitals in China. Her new boss is an American, and she often has difficulty engaging in fluent conversations with her boss. She is unsure about how to start a conversation and she does not know what is considered acceptable behavior when working with Americans. I've found that my job is not only to help her improve her oral English, but also to help her understand the American style of interactions. She told me that many of her colleagues are American, so at dinner meetings, they all speak English without seeking to include her in the conversations. It's a little disappointing to know that the Americans in her company have created a somewhat exclusive group. She does not feel comfortable jumping in on the conversation. In such circumstances, it is not the Chinese way to interrupt a conversation. My tutoree knows she must improve her knowledge of English and American culture, such knowledge is quickly becoming a pre-requisite for promotion in her company. Globalization is everywhere!
Finally, I went to my Chinese mother's house for the weekend. She took me and her friend to the Great Wall. Of all the tourist attractions I've been to in Beijing, I think the Great Wall is the best. The Great Wall is something I never thought I would see in my lifetime, it was amazing! Granted, there was a Starbucks at the Great Wall (I wasn't necessarily bummed), as well as various other shops, but the site was still amazing. This past weekend, the Chinese celebrated the Qing Ming Holiday. Many people travel to other provinces to honor their ancestors at their graves. The idea of filial piety and respecting ancestors is a key component of Confucianism that is still prevelent in current Chinese society. On a funny note, I was watching CCTV later that evening, and they reported that honoring ancestors through the internet is becoming the new trend. It is a means to save time and money, and it reduces the pollution emitted from vehicles and burning incense. The internet has definitely changed the culture, especially among the young people.
Back to the Great Wall! Beijing is a hotspot for travel during this holiday, so the Great Wall was packed. I was asked by countless people (probably close to 50 people) to take a picture with them. Such events have become fairly common, but the experience at the Great Wall was on an entirely different playing field. I think the longest I went without being in a picture was about ten minutes. My Chinese mom told me to start charging!
I recently became familiar with another aspect of Chinese culture. My roommate is from the country-side in Jiangsu Province. In the country-side, many of the old superstitions still exist. The idea that boys are more valuable than girls is still prevalent. My roommate is the second girl in her family. Her father's parents were so disappointed when she was born, they rarely spoke to her and they treated her mother poorly for not producing a son. My roommate also told me that if a family does not want a girl, they often leave the newborns at the community dumps. I knew such practices existed, but I was unaware how prevelent the practices are today. I think the predjudice against females is changing as more and more young people go to the cities for college education. More women are attaining high-level jobs and are becoming successful. However, remnants of old traditions still remain.
Next weekend, I will travel to the Great Wall again. We are hiking 10km and staying overnight with some villagers outside Beijing. I should have some interesting stories upon my return! I hope you all have a wonderful week and enjoy the spring weather!